I’m a milestone person. I enjoy measurements and celebrations, especially anniversaries. This year, I got a little giddy when I realized that 2015, today in particular, marks ten years since my hubby and I went out on our first date. On May 28 of 2005, we enjoyed a dinner over so much conversation that our poor waitress had to return a few times before we finally read the menu and decided on our choices. We’ve been together ever since, through everything that life has had to offer us so far.
Ten years is a lot. It’s a decade. Whoa! And in particular, the past ten years has been a transformative period of my life. I went from my mid-twenties to my mid-thirties. From fresh-out-of-college, through a couple jobs, and on to my full-time career as a photographer and business owner. From a renter to a home owner. From a cat person to a crazy pug momma. And more. Reflecting back on this time is amazing, really- but above all, the best transformation I’ve gone through over the past ten years is due to Eric.
I went from a hopeless romantic to a happily married wife. That one transition has come with a lot of personal change. I’ve said many times over the past years that my husband has made me a better person, and I’ll still say it today and mean it with all of my heart. From the moment I met him, I knew it was special and I hoped we’d be here and be able to say we’re still happier than ever. And we are- and we can. But it’s not completely our own strength or personalities that have gotten us here. We can’t take all the credit. We owe quite a bit of it to God, the third strand in the cord that makes our marriage strong.
“Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is not jealous.
It does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently,
does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked.
It does not keep account of the injury.
It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails.
-1 Corinthians 13:4-8
You’ve probably heard some variation of the words above at many weddings- I know I have, and I appreciate it each time I hear them as a reminder. These words aren’t easy to live by. They’re difficult to follow, in fact, especially when it comes to the person you see day in and day out. The person you see at their best and at their worst, who sees you at your best and your worst. It is so easy to give our best to the world and then come home exhausted and offer only the leftovers to our loving spouse. And when you’re exhausted, it can be a challenge to offer your best energy, effort, and love to the one person it’s easiest to take for granted in our lives.
From the very beginning of our relationship, Eric has been the one person I’ve known who best embodies the spirit of those words in First Corinthians. He has taught me a lot about patience, kindness, mildness, and humility. He teaches me by his own actions, by forgiving my failures and humbly seeking my forgiveness for his, by striving for peace and harmony in our marriage, and by sacrificing for our little family and leading me spiritually. We both fail, and often. But someone once said that a good marriage starts with two good forgivers. I’ve certainly found that to be true.
I can’t accurately describe how grateful I am for my husband. It’s not something that’s easy to put into words. But that’s OK, because as a photographer I use images! So, in celebration of ten years with the love of my life, I’m sharing a few photos from our journey from there to here. They’re not all professional, they’re mostly snapshots…but they’re our story! My project this year is to bring all of our photos together in a collection of books. Just looking through these images makes me so happy- I love remembering our adventures and all of the things we’ve experienced together.
To my honey, on this pretty significant milestone… I’d do each and every day of this past decade over again if I could. I’m so glad we get to spend the rest of our lives together. You’re truly my best friend and favorite person ever. I love you!